Signs of having golden child syndrome
An overwhelming need to please
A golden child will, “Make an extreme effort to appease their parents and satisfy all of their needs,” says Dr Sanam Hafeez, a neuropsychologist based in New York.
Growing up faster than peers
These children generally will mature more quickly than their peers and take on responsibilities such as running the household or contributing to big decisions. In addition, they will stay away from interests considered to be childish or unproductive.
The golden child will be extremely studious thereby achieving the best grades, ultimately to please their parents. They love a competitive environment.
Fear of Failure
Golden children don’t like to fail (even if failure often leads to deeper understanding and learning). Failing is very frustrating for these uber-achievers. Instead, they will constantly try to be perfect.
Some reasons why parents might project these kinds of stellar expectation onto their children include having ‘failed’ themselves when they were younger (in terms of academics or career for instance) or needing to derive joy from their children’s success to counterbalance what’s lacking in their own lives.
Ultimately, it is not sustainable and this becomes apparent as time goes on and especially during the adolescent years. Something has got to give; at some point, the golden child will know the pressure was too great.
They will take a step back and acknowledge the role that was imposed on them, realising the golden future they had been burdened with, will not be materialising. With this comes a sense of liberty and new achievements.
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